Editing a Dating Profile for Men

I recently came across an interesting dating profile on match. Here it is:

Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts...

First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!)

Does Match only work for women, not for men? The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks. There must be a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, erotic, has sense of humor, loves their family, friends &wants to explore new interests, activities & the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and Intimate Desires. I consider myself all of the above, & can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite. Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. I'm a normal, healthy, happy & active kind of guy. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and lifes little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definately want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule. (sarcastic humor). Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, go to games or participating, skiing is fav., or lunch/dinners & of cou personal entertainment. I'm very easy, relaxed in my new found single life. I'm ready and able to be molded and trained into your hearts desire. I enjoy the quiet times when nothings pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket(as is normally described here in these forums). My Looks? Well I consider myself reletively attractive(again everything is relative and you can ask for measurements if you want.)Some have told me I look a little younger than my actual age, some say older(Not Many!). But I definely don't always think or act my age. But again those are all YOUR calls. YOU get to decide all those factors when you talk and meet with me. I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed, a suit/tie most of the time, my favorite jeans during all other times. As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-maiL(I like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked, (or who knows, might have HATED) “That Nice Guy Next Door” type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. and have retained my Midwestern values & blended them with my great California upbringing.
I'm the guy you CAN teach new tricks . I know you want to. Come on Mistris Mandy, TEACH ME!

Ps. Pix all taken in the last year. New ones will be sent to you if

First of all, I have to say that paragraphs are necessary to make a dating profile easier on the eyes. It is already hard to read so many dating profiles. Make it easier for the women.

Now, here is how I would edit it to make it more appealing without changing it too much.

- The headline should be exciting and intriguing. Yours is desperate and frustrated, like you are giving up before you even start. - Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Come up with something more original..

- This needs to go Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts... What is it for? What does it do for your profile? Just filler? Don’t warm up the engine. Grab the reader’s attention from the first paragraph.

- First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!) – ok, this “sales pitch” is like saying “now I am going to tell you why you should buy a used vacuum cleaner”

- Does Match only work for women, not for men? Translates “I am so sick and tired of not getting ANY responses”

- The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. – this is ok, mediocre but ok

- Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. - Sounding like a women’s psychology expert. And who said women like the “good guys”, AKA spineless doormats. Women like men who are exciting, intriguing, dangerous, unpredictable

- I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", - where do you get this information? & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks.

There must be - this first part makes you sound frustrated and disappointed. It needs to go
a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, and erotic, has sense of humor, loves her (not theirs) family, friends and wants to explore new interests, activities and the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and intimate desires (no need to capitalize Intimate Desires even though you may think it’s the most important part, it makes a woman go ewwwwww)

I consider myself all of the above. I can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite.

- Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. – this needs to go
I am healthy, happy and active. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and life’s little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definitely want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule.. (sarcastic humor).
Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, going to games or participating, skiing are my favorites, or lunch, dinners and of course personal entertainment.

I'm very easy, and relaxed in my newly found single life. I enjoy quiet times when nothing is pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket (as is normally described here in these forums).
I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed in a suit and tie most of the time, or my favorite jeans during all other times.

As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-mail (l like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked. That Nice Guy Next Door type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. I have retained my Midwestern values and blended them with my great California upbringing.

How To Meet The Best Men On a Dating Site

Maybe you have just started with online dating, or perhaps you've been on a dating site for some time, and have tasted men's interest online. Sure, as a woman, you have an advantage over men on a dating site. You wonder "do I really need great pictures? I am getting more attention from men than I can handle? The problem is that I don't get the quality men. I get practically swamped with e-mail from men, but I can't find anyone I'd like to date." Sounds familiar? Think about all the e-mails that you get on a dating site that you don't even want to read. As soon as you open up an e-mail from a man, you just go, what was he thinking about? He could be my dad! Or, do I look that bad? What were you thinking about when you wrote to me?

Here is the good news for you. Single men who are great catches feel just as frustrated as you are. I get multiple e-mails from men from a variety of dating sites who say "you are the one I really want to meet." Why do you think men are so drawn to my profile if they have never seen me? They've never met me. Why do you think they want to meet me and think I am the one they are really interested in meeting? I have met multiple great looking men online. I have met some of the most successful and wealthy men in the country.

How can you meet high caliber men via online dating? How can you consistently meet good looking men? How can you consistently meet successful men?

The answer is very simple. The two main components of success on a dating site are - your pictures and the dating profile write up. Great quality professional dating site pictures taken and prepared specifically for online dating, by a professional photographer get you more viewed by better quality of men ensuring good quality matches and potential relationship that you can get out of your online dating site membership.

Did you know that most men give up on online dating within the first three months of being on a dating site? Why do you think that is? The answer is that men who are not all that interesting, attractive and together don't get many replies from women on a dating site. Then again, men who are bombarded with women's solicitations on a dating site are particularly choosy. They get very frustrated by getting contacted by hundreds of women they do not find interesting or attractive.

Men are visual creatures and at this point of online dating introduction a man has to go by what you look like and what you say in your dating site profile. Your picture is the first thing that captures men's attention on an online dating site. While no one can put their smarts into your head and make you write expressively, having attention grabbing pictures is entirely in your hands. Take charge and start attracting better quality, good looking men on a dating site.

Should I Be Myself on Dating Site Pictures or Be Someone I am Not?

I hear this from women a lot, “I am who I am and the guy either likes me or not just the way I am”. Let’s talk about this for a moment. What exactly does it mean being yourself? Being yourself means to be yourself in a way that is going to be true to yourself, your authentic, genuine, real and unique you.

What is the difference between ‘being yourself’ in the best way, and ‘being yourself’ as most women think of it. When most women think about being themselves for men think of it as they should just be the good, bad or downright ugly, whatever they feel like around men and for their men. They interpret being themselves as being able to look whatever they feel like and expect men to love them just the way they are, with unshaved legs, no makeup and undone hair. Women who think that way usually believe that they should not make any effort to be best looking they can be and just let the men accept them for who they are.

Perhaps baggy sweats, an oversized t-shirt, unshaven legs, makeup-free face, unplucked eyebrows, and unwashed hair is what you are when you are at home alone. And that is just fine when you have been in a relationship for some time. The man will learn to love you for who you are, but until then you need to bring out the best you. And the best you is also you, only dolled up, clean and groomed.

Picture yourself in your little black dress, groomed, clean, nicely styled, and with a little makeup on to bring out your best features. That is also you, but not the lazy gloomy you, but the beautiful, confident you, who is out there to conquer all men in the world.

Both those images are you. And there is nothing wrong about being the beautiful you.

Which image do you want to convey through your dating site pictures? You decide!

How NOT to write a dating ad

How not to write a dating profile.

Craigslist is not the best place to post your dating profile. I’ve said that before, but today someone attracted my attention on Blog Catalog forums by offering to take a look at this bizarre man’s dating ad on craigslist.

"Successful Man Searching for His Princess - 27 (Upper East Side)"

"First of all let me start out by saying that I hate fat women on Craigslist. I mean who in their right mind would call themselves a Big Beautiful Woman. Is this something your parents helped indoctrinate you with when all the children were calling you names in grade school? Fat is NOT "phat" and fat is definitely NOT beautiful. Being overweight is neither healthy physically or mentally. In my opinion, this is one of the main problems facing America right now. Long story short, do not reply to this ad if you are even 10 pounds overweight, I don't want to waste your time. (see JennyCraig.com for a healthy height/weight ratio chart)

As for me:

I am a successful web entrepreneur who has started two online businesses. I made my first million when I was only eighteen and have never looked back since. To tell you the truth, I've been pretty successful my whole life without really trying. I was valedictorian of my high school class and earned a Bachelor's Degree in Marketing from a top three school. When most were struggling through these classes, I was easily earning top marks. In fact, after the amount of times I corrected my professors, I truly believe I'm more apt and qualified to teach than three quarters of them.

My life's philosophy is to work hard and play even harder. I own a condo in Long Beach and enjoy wake boarding and jet skiing in the summer. In the off months, I allow my mother to reside there provided that she upkeep the house. She seems to be happy with the arrangement, and who knows, perhaps she'd be keen to clean the house for us in the summer.

I'm a Republican and believe that throughout life we should all have to fight for what we want. If you feel you are being treated unfairly, my advice is to stop crying and find a way to deal with it. I'm sick of all these liberal groups whining about equal rights. It seems as if there's a different group for every flavor of minority. I'm a white man, who the hell is looking out for me? (answer: no one) Please be of similar mind in regards to politics. If you want Barrack Hussein Osama to become our next president, then I am NOT the man for you. However, if you're looking forward to a presidency under the Maverick himself, by all means contact me.

I enjoy eating at all the popular restaurants in the city including Alain Ducasse, Per Se, and who could forget Masa. I should mention that I like Masa not only for their excellent Sushi, but also due to the fact that their valet parking staff is actually all white. It creeps me out to know some immigrant from West Africa is driving my SL500. And sure, these places are a little more expensive than most, but I can easily afford it. My prospective girlfriend should enjoy getting dolled up and have a pallet fit for a queen. Fine food and the night life are pleasures I tend to indulge myself with, and so should you. I'm looking for someone to help me paint this town red and green with envy!

Finally, I do not intend to have any children. My nieces and nephews provide enough incentive to bypass this "joy" of life. There is no arguing about this and once again, if this is something you are opposed to, please don't waste my time with a reply. Shoot me an email if you'd like to know more. Remember, your picture gets mine."

A quick google search showed that the same posting had appeared twice in the Washington, DC area and had been flagged and removed both times. However, the posting on Manhattan craigslist stayed. At the request of Blog Catalog members on the forum I sent this guy an e-mail including a couple of pictures. Apparently we all wanted to know what he looks like. To my disappointment he never responded. I really don’t think he will. He probably thinks it’s some evil joke and someone is reciprocating in kind to his unkind hate dating post.

PS: Like all of you probably guessed by now it was a joke and the guy in question was running an experiment.

Dating site photos warning signs

Did you know that some people post fake photos on their dating site profiles? I have heard of it before, but never really met anyone whose photos did not match the reality. The only really time that I have seen an actual profile with someone else’s photos on Match.com was about a year ago. And here is how I know that it was a fake profile; I had met a man on a dating site sometime before. He lived in Florida and flew to California to meet me. He was a very handsome man, but clearly he did not live where I lived and I certainly was not going to move. Dating his at that point did not seem live a viable option, although I had agreed to meet him.

Sometime later I saw his picture again on Match.com and decided to say hello. When I clicked on the main picture, I was taken to his dating profile. What I saw absolutely blew my mind. The man in the profile did not live where the guy lived. In fact, he lived in another country and his description was not what the other guy was. Not even similar. The profession was different, and everything else was different. To top that off, he only had one photo, the one that was his main photo. The photo was a low resolution which suggested that it was downloaded off of a website and saved on the hard drive, then uploaded on his dating profile.

Normally, I hear from men that they have meet women on Match.com that had somebody else’s pictures on their dating profiles, but for a man to do that, that’s never heard of. After all, men are not as particular about their dating site pictures, and they don’t care as much as women do about attracting women on a dating site by simply using great photographs.

I think I reported the violation to Match.com management but I am not sure what happened to that dating site member afterwards. Neither do I know whether it was a dating site scammer from another country.

Since that incident I have not heard about another dating site picture theft until today. But today, browsing WealthyMen
out of curiosity, I noted a photo of a somewhat known male model amongst dating site members. I was surprised to see that male model on a dating site listed in my area. When I clicked on the profile, more pictures of the same model appeared to be on the dating profile. I know exactly who that man is. He is an agency model who has appeared in various magazines and on TV. It would make more sense if the male model had suddenly moved to my area. However, the dating site profile of the man who had posted the model’s pictures said that dating site member was an engineer, and the entire description of the person did not match. I reported the violation to WealthyMen


With widely used photo sharing, myspace and facebook profiles of people posting multiple pictures, online dating site scammers and other dishonest people feel that they have found their paradise. Those people who think their looks are not enough to attract someone, deceptively post better looking people’s pictures on a dating site. I personally think that if you are that ugly that you are embarrassed to post your own pictures on a dating site, you should not be dating at all. So, if you are dating online, always be cautious about who you are meeting. It may be a dating site predator hiding behind somebody else’s pictures. Read safety tips for online dating before meeting someone for the first date.

Worst Dating Headlines

If you browse singles at any given online dating site, you will notice that many dating profile headlines sound the same. If you want to attract singles on a dating site, you need to be original. With that said, I have decided to summarize the worst dating profile headlines in here to warn you to steer clear from using these overused online dating profile headlines if you want to have online dating success. Here are they are, the worst possible dating profile headlines:

Just a girl

Looking 4 My Best Friend

Searching for the Love of My Life

Looking for Partner, Friend, Lover

Looking for Something

Looking for a Good Man

I want to Find My Prince Charming!

Life Is Too Short to Be Unhappy

I'm Looking for a New Adventure

No Headline

Fun Loving Girl Looking For THE ONE

Looking for that right one.

I Don't Want to Laugh Alone Anymore

I’m looking for an ideal partner

Looking for a friend.....possibly more!

Looking for My Prince

Down to Earth Girl Looking for Sweet Guy

Looking for that special someone.

Honest, blunt man

Looking for Mr. Right

Looking for a fun and outgoing guy.

Are You in My Future

Look No Further, I Am Right Here.

Looking for that Certain Someone

Looking for a Good Hearted Honest Man

I am fun girl very sweet and sincere

One Good Hearted Man Wanted

looking for Mr. right; can you help?

Looking for that elusive perfect man

Just out to Have Fun

Looking for Someone to Share a Smile

Are You "the One"?

Checking It out

Just Looking Around

Ok, here is one good original dating site head line I liked, “Baggage should fit in the overhead compartment or underneath the seat.”