First e-mail on a dating site can be intimidating and confusing, Sometimes we just don’t know what to write in an e-mail to a woman on a dating site. To answer a question what to say to a woman on a dating site in the first e- mail, first thing to remember is to address something you have read in her dating site profile. Here is an e-mail example. Do not use it in your case though because clearly this e-mail was written in response to a particular dating site profile and if you merely copy this, it will not reflect what the woman you are writing to is saying in her dating profile.
Well, your expectations are short and to the point! I should try that -I can tell in one minute if that person interests me. Shallow? Maybe but I don't care -I like nice things. Why settle. Do I measure up? (not sure if I'm super hot but I am quietly confident without arrogance. No advance degree but plenty of experience in technology, engineering, business management, sales, marketing, communication, people).My photos are all from this summer. I really am 6'2" (maybe even 6-3). That's my hair and my teeth. How can you go wrong? Like you, I'm not desperate to get laid or married either. My life is and always has been full.
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Sunday, September 14, 2008
How Not To Write an E-Mail to a Man on a Dating Site
Let me start off by saying that as a woman, you should not write an e-mail to a man first. I personally do not recommend initiating contact with a man on a dating site. I am old fashioned and much prefer that a man contact me first. But to each their own, as they say, and if you are so compelled to write an e-mail to a guy on a dating site, you should make it really short.
Here is an e-mail my guy friend received recently on a dating site from a woman living nearby. I will include the e-mail here, and of course, I will slightly paraphrase it and I will not include any names. Below I will comment on this e-mail and why you should not write an initial e-mail on a dating site that is like the one below. So, here it is.
I have had your profiled saved for a few weeks and haven't written. Why? I am not sure. I really enjoyed reading your profile especially the part where you want a woman that has ample room in her heart to be filled with love, passion and devotion. I am looking for a guy where the little boy is alive and well and actively engaged in life. I am not just talking about living life, but doing it! Someone who is emotionally and physically available to reach true intimacy with one person. I believe that true intimacy is the connection of mind, body, soul and spirit; something that many people have never experienced nor have the idea that it even exists! The man I am looking for is self aware and uninhibited, spontaneous, passionate, romantic, and mostly soulful. He must be able to laugh at himself and recognize his faults as no one is perfect, but willing to grow together with friendship and honesty as the foundation of a wonderful relationship!
Don't let the corporate picture fool you; only one I had. I have a feminine side that is a huge part of who I am. I have been told that I am much prettier than my pictures; no games here. I have had misrepresentation done to me and it isn't nice! My hair is longer, curlier and I have a deeper tan. I am a Libra also and passion is the way that I live my life in whatever I am doing!
So if anything that I have said intrigues you, please write and then we can meet. I am not technical and prefer the old fashion way with the personal touch!
Hope you are having a great evening and that I hear from you soon
I personally think that this is a great e-mail except for one thing. Until you haven’t met, it is unreasonable to have such high expectations. You wouldn’t want to put your heart out for someone you’ve never met. Granted, deep down we all want what she had described. However, putting the cart before the horse and raising unrealistic expectations upon someone you’ve never met before is premature.
Here is an e-mail my guy friend received recently on a dating site from a woman living nearby. I will include the e-mail here, and of course, I will slightly paraphrase it and I will not include any names. Below I will comment on this e-mail and why you should not write an initial e-mail on a dating site that is like the one below. So, here it is.
I have had your profiled saved for a few weeks and haven't written. Why? I am not sure. I really enjoyed reading your profile especially the part where you want a woman that has ample room in her heart to be filled with love, passion and devotion. I am looking for a guy where the little boy is alive and well and actively engaged in life. I am not just talking about living life, but doing it! Someone who is emotionally and physically available to reach true intimacy with one person. I believe that true intimacy is the connection of mind, body, soul and spirit; something that many people have never experienced nor have the idea that it even exists! The man I am looking for is self aware and uninhibited, spontaneous, passionate, romantic, and mostly soulful. He must be able to laugh at himself and recognize his faults as no one is perfect, but willing to grow together with friendship and honesty as the foundation of a wonderful relationship!
Don't let the corporate picture fool you; only one I had. I have a feminine side that is a huge part of who I am. I have been told that I am much prettier than my pictures; no games here. I have had misrepresentation done to me and it isn't nice! My hair is longer, curlier and I have a deeper tan. I am a Libra also and passion is the way that I live my life in whatever I am doing!
So if anything that I have said intrigues you, please write and then we can meet. I am not technical and prefer the old fashion way with the personal touch!
Hope you are having a great evening and that I hear from you soon
I personally think that this is a great e-mail except for one thing. Until you haven’t met, it is unreasonable to have such high expectations. You wouldn’t want to put your heart out for someone you’ve never met. Granted, deep down we all want what she had described. However, putting the cart before the horse and raising unrealistic expectations upon someone you’ve never met before is premature.
Monday, August 25, 2008
Editing a Dating Profile for Men
I recently came across an interesting dating profile on match. Here it is:
Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts...
First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!)
Does Match only work for women, not for men? The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks. There must be a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, erotic, has sense of humor, loves their family, friends &wants to explore new interests, activities & the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and Intimate Desires. I consider myself all of the above, & can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite. Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. I'm a normal, healthy, happy & active kind of guy. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and lifes little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definately want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule. (sarcastic humor). Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, go to games or participating, skiing is fav., or lunch/dinners & of cou personal entertainment. I'm very easy, relaxed in my new found single life. I'm ready and able to be molded and trained into your hearts desire. I enjoy the quiet times when nothings pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket(as is normally described here in these forums). My Looks? Well I consider myself reletively attractive(again everything is relative and you can ask for measurements if you want.)Some have told me I look a little younger than my actual age, some say older(Not Many!). But I definely don't always think or act my age. But again those are all YOUR calls. YOU get to decide all those factors when you talk and meet with me. I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed, a suit/tie most of the time, my favorite jeans during all other times. As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-maiL(I like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked, (or who knows, might have HATED) “That Nice Guy Next Door” type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. and have retained my Midwestern values & blended them with my great California upbringing.
I'm the guy you CAN teach new tricks . I know you want to. Come on Mistris Mandy, TEACH ME!
Ps. Pix all taken in the last year. New ones will be sent to you if
First of all, I have to say that paragraphs are necessary to make a dating profile easier on the eyes. It is already hard to read so many dating profiles. Make it easier for the women.
Now, here is how I would edit it to make it more appealing without changing it too much.
- The headline should be exciting and intriguing. Yours is desperate and frustrated, like you are giving up before you even start. - Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Come up with something more original..
- This needs to go Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts... What is it for? What does it do for your profile? Just filler? Don’t warm up the engine. Grab the reader’s attention from the first paragraph.
- First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!) – ok, this “sales pitch” is like saying “now I am going to tell you why you should buy a used vacuum cleaner”
- Does Match only work for women, not for men? Translates “I am so sick and tired of not getting ANY responses”
- The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. – this is ok, mediocre but ok
- Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. - Sounding like a women’s psychology expert. And who said women like the “good guys”, AKA spineless doormats. Women like men who are exciting, intriguing, dangerous, unpredictable
- I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", - where do you get this information? & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks.
There must be - this first part makes you sound frustrated and disappointed. It needs to go
a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, and erotic, has sense of humor, loves her (not theirs) family, friends and wants to explore new interests, activities and the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and intimate desires (no need to capitalize Intimate Desires even though you may think it’s the most important part, it makes a woman go ewwwwww)
I consider myself all of the above. I can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite.
- Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. – this needs to go
I am healthy, happy and active. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and life’s little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definitely want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule.. (sarcastic humor).
Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, going to games or participating, skiing are my favorites, or lunch, dinners and of course personal entertainment.
I'm very easy, and relaxed in my newly found single life. I enjoy quiet times when nothing is pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket (as is normally described here in these forums).
I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed in a suit and tie most of the time, or my favorite jeans during all other times.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-mail (l like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked. That Nice Guy Next Door type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. I have retained my Midwestern values and blended them with my great California upbringing.
Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts...
First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!)
Does Match only work for women, not for men? The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks. There must be a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, erotic, has sense of humor, loves their family, friends &wants to explore new interests, activities & the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and Intimate Desires. I consider myself all of the above, & can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite. Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. I'm a normal, healthy, happy & active kind of guy. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and lifes little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definately want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule. (sarcastic humor). Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, go to games or participating, skiing is fav., or lunch/dinners & of cou personal entertainment. I'm very easy, relaxed in my new found single life. I'm ready and able to be molded and trained into your hearts desire. I enjoy the quiet times when nothings pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket(as is normally described here in these forums). My Looks? Well I consider myself reletively attractive(again everything is relative and you can ask for measurements if you want.)Some have told me I look a little younger than my actual age, some say older(Not Many!). But I definely don't always think or act my age. But again those are all YOUR calls. YOU get to decide all those factors when you talk and meet with me. I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed, a suit/tie most of the time, my favorite jeans during all other times. As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-maiL(I like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked, (or who knows, might have HATED) “That Nice Guy Next Door” type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. and have retained my Midwestern values & blended them with my great California upbringing.
I'm the guy you CAN teach new tricks . I know you want to. Come on Mistris Mandy, TEACH ME!
Ps. Pix all taken in the last year. New ones will be sent to you if
First of all, I have to say that paragraphs are necessary to make a dating profile easier on the eyes. It is already hard to read so many dating profiles. Make it easier for the women.
Now, here is how I would edit it to make it more appealing without changing it too much.
- The headline should be exciting and intriguing. Yours is desperate and frustrated, like you are giving up before you even start. - Are us good guys really so hard for women to find? Come up with something more original..
- This needs to go Alrighty then, here are my innermost thoughts... What is it for? What does it do for your profile? Just filler? Don’t warm up the engine. Grab the reader’s attention from the first paragraph.
- First, some housekeeping. Some have said my few pix are lousy. Tell ya what, I"ll send you more or better, Pix. If you are curious about my physical looks, JUST ASK ME!) – ok, this “sales pitch” is like saying “now I am going to tell you why you should buy a used vacuum cleaner”
- Does Match only work for women, not for men? Translates “I am so sick and tired of not getting ANY responses”
- The chemistry of personality & physical attraction is hard to find, but when found, it's amazing. – this is ok, mediocre but ok
- Hard to believe all us "Good Guys" are taken. - Sounding like a women’s psychology expert. And who said women like the “good guys”, AKA spineless doormats. Women like men who are exciting, intriguing, dangerous, unpredictable
- I think most women on Match have just experienced the "serial daters", - where do you get this information? & we "previously domesticated", "well trained" guys get lumped in with the schmucks.
There must be - this first part makes you sound frustrated and disappointed. It needs to go
a woman out there who's romantic, honest, faithful, and erotic, has sense of humor, loves her (not theirs) family, friends and wants to explore new interests, activities and the road less traveled. Someone to become best friends with, get to know our deepest feelings, thoughts and intimate desires (no need to capitalize Intimate Desires even though you may think it’s the most important part, it makes a woman go ewwwwww)
I consider myself all of the above. I can carry on intelligent conversations for more than two minutes. I'm not hard charger through the "Dating Scene" just for the ACTION. I'm just the opposite.
- Not that I don't like the girl/guy ACTION, I'm a guy after all, & an assertive woman is on my "turn-on" list for this profile. But usually that's it a quick round of mattress aerobics, & BANG! But those relationships don't last.(Not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)I'm willing to wait for the right match, if your out there. – this needs to go
I am healthy, happy and active. (I'm not the marathon before breakfast/free climbing half dome before bed kind of guy). Right now it's work, family, friends, gym, fun, and life’s little chores (can't forget those), and free time, like now. Not always in that order. And I definitely want to fit in a nice, honest, uninhibited, faithful, girlfriend into that schedule.. (sarcastic humor).
Long Sunday drives, weekend getaways, going to games or participating, skiing are my favorites, or lunch, dinners and of course personal entertainment.
I'm very easy, and relaxed in my newly found single life. I enjoy quiet times when nothing is pending. Sitting or laying together on the couch, talking, watching a movie, Daily Show or cozy time enjoying a rainy night under a blanket (as is normally described here in these forums).
I'm the guy you might pause and take a second look at, in a Starbucks, or the supermarket, at the airport, or even next to you on a plane, maybe your standing next to me in a elevator of a professional building. Well dressed in a suit and tie most of the time, or my favorite jeans during all other times.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm polite, professional, respectful, mostly extroverted, but quiet if I don't know you. I’m not the type to hit on you or ask you out during our brief chat during a slow elevator ride. But if you become comfortable at that point? Hmmm, maybe you might volunteer your number or e-mail (l like that best), or maybe I ask for your number or e-mail and I connect with you later? Maybe we just continue talking until a comfort level develops? Who knows? I always respect other people and their boundaries. I am the type of guy your parents might have liked. That Nice Guy Next Door type. However, I'm not stuck in my ways. I'm very laid back, and open to almost everything. Originally from a town in Northern Wis. I have retained my Midwestern values and blended them with my great California upbringing.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
How To Meet The Best Men On a Dating Site
Maybe you have just started with online dating, or perhaps you've been on a dating site for some time, and have tasted men's interest online. Sure, as a woman, you have an advantage over men on a dating site. You wonder "do I really need great pictures? I am getting more attention from men than I can handle? The problem is that I don't get the quality men. I get practically swamped with e-mail from men, but I can't find anyone I'd like to date." Sounds familiar? Think about all the e-mails that you get on a dating site that you don't even want to read. As soon as you open up an e-mail from a man, you just go, what was he thinking about? He could be my dad! Or, do I look that bad? What were you thinking about when you wrote to me?
Here is the good news for you. Single men who are great catches feel just as frustrated as you are. I get multiple e-mails from men from a variety of dating sites who say "you are the one I really want to meet." Why do you think men are so drawn to my profile if they have never seen me? They've never met me. Why do you think they want to meet me and think I am the one they are really interested in meeting? I have met multiple great looking men online. I have met some of the most successful and wealthy men in the country.
How can you meet high caliber men via online dating? How can you consistently meet good looking men? How can you consistently meet successful men?
The answer is very simple. The two main components of success on a dating site are - your pictures and the dating profile write up. Great quality professional dating site pictures taken and prepared specifically for online dating, by a professional photographer get you more viewed by better quality of men ensuring good quality matches and potential relationship that you can get out of your online dating site membership.
Did you know that most men give up on online dating within the first three months of being on a dating site? Why do you think that is? The answer is that men who are not all that interesting, attractive and together don't get many replies from women on a dating site. Then again, men who are bombarded with women's solicitations on a dating site are particularly choosy. They get very frustrated by getting contacted by hundreds of women they do not find interesting or attractive.
Men are visual creatures and at this point of online dating introduction a man has to go by what you look like and what you say in your dating site profile. Your picture is the first thing that captures men's attention on an online dating site. While no one can put their smarts into your head and make you write expressively, having attention grabbing pictures is entirely in your hands. Take charge and start attracting better quality, good looking men on a dating site.
Here is the good news for you. Single men who are great catches feel just as frustrated as you are. I get multiple e-mails from men from a variety of dating sites who say "you are the one I really want to meet." Why do you think men are so drawn to my profile if they have never seen me? They've never met me. Why do you think they want to meet me and think I am the one they are really interested in meeting? I have met multiple great looking men online. I have met some of the most successful and wealthy men in the country.
How can you meet high caliber men via online dating? How can you consistently meet good looking men? How can you consistently meet successful men?
The answer is very simple. The two main components of success on a dating site are - your pictures and the dating profile write up. Great quality professional dating site pictures taken and prepared specifically for online dating, by a professional photographer get you more viewed by better quality of men ensuring good quality matches and potential relationship that you can get out of your online dating site membership.
Did you know that most men give up on online dating within the first three months of being on a dating site? Why do you think that is? The answer is that men who are not all that interesting, attractive and together don't get many replies from women on a dating site. Then again, men who are bombarded with women's solicitations on a dating site are particularly choosy. They get very frustrated by getting contacted by hundreds of women they do not find interesting or attractive.
Men are visual creatures and at this point of online dating introduction a man has to go by what you look like and what you say in your dating site profile. Your picture is the first thing that captures men's attention on an online dating site. While no one can put their smarts into your head and make you write expressively, having attention grabbing pictures is entirely in your hands. Take charge and start attracting better quality, good looking men on a dating site.
Thursday, July 31, 2008
Online Dating Site Photos
Online dating has become one of the most popular ways of meeting people of the opposite gender. Back in the days it was relatively easy for a woman to get high number of responses by simply posting a profile on a dating site. These days, however, the competition has gone through the roof with new members joining every day.
To beat your competition and to increase the number of quality responses to your dating ad, you need to aggressively market yourself. Everything takes work, and finding a soul mate is one of those things that you need to put a lot of effort into. According to the statistics, most single women think that the most challenging part of the whole process of obtaining a mate is finding the right man. While the exposure to available singles on a dating site is great, people have become extremely choosy. Men no longer drive out for fifty miles to buy a woman two-hundred-dollar dinner unless they think there is a valid relationship potential.
These days men are leery about women posting old pictures and most men will request additional photos sent to their direct e-mail addresses before deciding to meet in person.
With that said, you need to prepare your marketing materials to be the most efficient that you can be in your quest to finding a mate. Hire a professional photographer, who will agree to a flat fee for a photo shoot and will provide a set number of digitally enhanced photos within a short time frame after the photo shoot. Spell out in the agreement how many photos will be provided, how much you agree to pay for the specified number of photos, and how long it will take for you to get the final product.
The fees for photo services will depend on the area you live in, so it's best to browse photographers' portfolios in your area and to check out price lists which most photographers place within their web sites.
After you set up a date and time for a photo shoot, make sure that you know what you are going to wear at the shoot, weather the shoot will take place indoors or outdoors, whether a makeup artist can be made available for a photo shoot. A makeup artist's services will require additional fees, but it is an investment worth making.
When you show up at the photographer's studio, make sure that you feel comfortable and natural. Most mistakes that women make when taking professional photos for their use of a dating site is looking too stiff and unnatural. If you are worried that you are not sure how to move in front of the camera, it will show on the photos and defeat the whole purpose of paying for professional photography. Always remember to look natural and at ease when taking pictures for a dating site profile. Make sure to check out my video showing how to move naturally in front of the camera when taking photos for a dating site profile
To beat your competition and to increase the number of quality responses to your dating ad, you need to aggressively market yourself. Everything takes work, and finding a soul mate is one of those things that you need to put a lot of effort into. According to the statistics, most single women think that the most challenging part of the whole process of obtaining a mate is finding the right man. While the exposure to available singles on a dating site is great, people have become extremely choosy. Men no longer drive out for fifty miles to buy a woman two-hundred-dollar dinner unless they think there is a valid relationship potential.
These days men are leery about women posting old pictures and most men will request additional photos sent to their direct e-mail addresses before deciding to meet in person.
With that said, you need to prepare your marketing materials to be the most efficient that you can be in your quest to finding a mate. Hire a professional photographer, who will agree to a flat fee for a photo shoot and will provide a set number of digitally enhanced photos within a short time frame after the photo shoot. Spell out in the agreement how many photos will be provided, how much you agree to pay for the specified number of photos, and how long it will take for you to get the final product.
The fees for photo services will depend on the area you live in, so it's best to browse photographers' portfolios in your area and to check out price lists which most photographers place within their web sites.
After you set up a date and time for a photo shoot, make sure that you know what you are going to wear at the shoot, weather the shoot will take place indoors or outdoors, whether a makeup artist can be made available for a photo shoot. A makeup artist's services will require additional fees, but it is an investment worth making.
When you show up at the photographer's studio, make sure that you feel comfortable and natural. Most mistakes that women make when taking professional photos for their use of a dating site is looking too stiff and unnatural. If you are worried that you are not sure how to move in front of the camera, it will show on the photos and defeat the whole purpose of paying for professional photography. Always remember to look natural and at ease when taking pictures for a dating site profile. Make sure to check out my video showing how to move naturally in front of the camera when taking photos for a dating site profile
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Great Dating Profile for a Funny Gal
If you consider yourself a funny-goofy kinda gal, your dating profile will most likely convey your funny side. After all you want to date a guy who doesn’t take himself too seriously and likes to laugh at the challenges that life presents him.My life is nothing short of hysterical. I’d like to meet someone that can make me laugh. I’ll make you laugh in return. My match will have to be able to slide right on in with the humor. I don't mean goofy-funny, but someone that can laugh at what life presents to him. The perfect date would include that "spark" of chemistry we all dream about right from the get go and then a conversation that flowed with ease will follow. What we're doing on our first date isn't really important if those two things are present.
I enjoy dark chocolate. It is my weakness and I usually carry a piece or two in my purse. You just never know when the craving is going to hit and I like to be prepared.
I am an author of a few short stories and one psycho drama, mystery love story, but fear not; I didn’t pull it out of my personal experience. I guess it’s just that my life is so drama-free, that I’ve created it in my imagination.
If it sounds like we might have some crazy fun times riding a roller coaster, shoot me a note and we’ll take it from there.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
My Dating Profile
Just thought I’d give you a sneak peek at my most recently published online dating profile.
"What every woman wants, but won't say......... Secrets exposed!"
I am happy, positive, warm, easy-going, assertive, selective, straight-forward, sassy, charismatic, respectful of others, sensitive to people’s feelings, and highly diplomatic. I take constructive and calm approach to conflict resolution. I don’t let emotions get on the way of problem resolution. I may come off as aloof, but trust me, I have high capacity for deep compassion; I am just not into drama.
I am adventurous and spontaneous, and can pack my little travel bag and take off to go overseas on a minute notice. I am creative, innovative and highly energetic. I get excited about new ideas and don’t procrastinate. I get along well with people who have the same mindset.
I have a variety or interests and social circles. They are a part of my life and while I don’t expect my partner to always pick up on my interests, I like to be able to continue doing those things either with or without him. I don’t smother people, and I expect the same courtesy in return.
I am respectful of other people’s space, their need for alone time or time away, and their need to decompress, as long as what needs to be done gets done; I am a result-oriented person, not process-oriented. I am pretty tolerant and forgiving, as long as my tolerance is not abused. When someone says they are going to do something, I take their promise for its face value, but if it doesn’t get done, I won’t nag, I’ll do it myself. I am independent in every way, but when I find myself doing everything for everybody all the time, I lose passion. I find it to be extremely important to have a true companionship where no one feels taken advantage of. Don’t take it as if I keep score or put a price tag on things though. I truly think that the biggest value that a woman can contribute in a relationship is the understanding, inspiration, encouragement and emotional support.
I would like to meet someone who is chivalrous, responsible, and generous and who has traditional (old-fashioned) values. I know that in this modern society a woman is frequently expected to take charge and to go after what she wants without hesitation and not allowing a man to “properly” court her. I was brought up differently. I like being pampered and courted. I take notice of the little things that are done to please me and I am very appreciative of them. It seems like a very simple thing to do that doesn’t require much effort in order to make a woman feel like a woman, yet not everyone realizes that women these days still like CHIVALRY.
"What every woman wants, but won't say......... Secrets exposed!"
I am happy, positive, warm, easy-going, assertive, selective, straight-forward, sassy, charismatic, respectful of others, sensitive to people’s feelings, and highly diplomatic. I take constructive and calm approach to conflict resolution. I don’t let emotions get on the way of problem resolution. I may come off as aloof, but trust me, I have high capacity for deep compassion; I am just not into drama.
I am adventurous and spontaneous, and can pack my little travel bag and take off to go overseas on a minute notice. I am creative, innovative and highly energetic. I get excited about new ideas and don’t procrastinate. I get along well with people who have the same mindset.
I have a variety or interests and social circles. They are a part of my life and while I don’t expect my partner to always pick up on my interests, I like to be able to continue doing those things either with or without him. I don’t smother people, and I expect the same courtesy in return.
I am respectful of other people’s space, their need for alone time or time away, and their need to decompress, as long as what needs to be done gets done; I am a result-oriented person, not process-oriented. I am pretty tolerant and forgiving, as long as my tolerance is not abused. When someone says they are going to do something, I take their promise for its face value, but if it doesn’t get done, I won’t nag, I’ll do it myself. I am independent in every way, but when I find myself doing everything for everybody all the time, I lose passion. I find it to be extremely important to have a true companionship where no one feels taken advantage of. Don’t take it as if I keep score or put a price tag on things though. I truly think that the biggest value that a woman can contribute in a relationship is the understanding, inspiration, encouragement and emotional support.
I would like to meet someone who is chivalrous, responsible, and generous and who has traditional (old-fashioned) values. I know that in this modern society a woman is frequently expected to take charge and to go after what she wants without hesitation and not allowing a man to “properly” court her. I was brought up differently. I like being pampered and courted. I take notice of the little things that are done to please me and I am very appreciative of them. It seems like a very simple thing to do that doesn’t require much effort in order to make a woman feel like a woman, yet not everyone realizes that women these days still like CHIVALRY.
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